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5 Types of Guys You’ll Meet in a Bar…(And How to Avoid Them)
Ladies, have you ever met a guy in a bar? Most of us have, but it always ends up to be a waste of time, right? There are 5 types of men that you will ever meet at a bar. In order to avoid them, you’ve got to know who they are. Check out DDHG’s list!
1. The Rebounder. This guy is fresh off a break up and looking to score. He thinks it’s going to make him feel better and forget about the girl who dumped him (probably for good reason) if he hooks up with another woman. Don’t be THAT woman, please!
2. The Storyteller a.k.a. The Liar. This guy’s got quite a tale to spin for you over drinks. He’ll tell you all about his worldly travels to far-flung corners of the Earth, the millions he’s got stashed in the bank and his amazing plan to find a wife and have some kids and settle down one day. Don’t fall for this. Most men won’t reveal their bank balance to a stranger at a bar.
3. The Cheater. This guy’s got a wife and kids at home already, but he’s out prowling the bars looking for a little action on the side. You can spot him by his wedding ring that he forgot to take off or the mini-van keys on his keychain.
4. The Loser. Under the dim lighting in a bar, this guy may look just fine. He may even be handsome, but once you get a little closer, this guy’s true nature reveals itself. He really has nothing going for him and no options in life. Clues to this guy’s identity include comments about how he’s “between jobs“, the fact that he may live with his parents or a roommate and when he lets it slip that he doesn’t really have a car. Run, don’t walk, away from this guy!
5. The Old Guy. This guy is usually over 40 and looks it. He’s perusing the place for a young woman. Most guys over this age are pretty insecure. They think that having a younger woman on their arm will somehow make them look better, thereby making them feel better about themselves. Although there are many advantages to dating an old guy, it’s probably not right for you. Yes, he’s probably settled and stable, but he’s probably got kids, an ex-wife from hell and more emotional baggage than you can imagine. Stay away from this guy at all costs!
5 Ways to Get Your Guy to Communicate With You
1. Invite him in. Most guys would communicate if they felt emotionally “safe”. Just like women who find it easier to talk about their feelings when they don’t feel threatened. Guys are the same way. Show your guy that no matter, he can come to you and be open and honest with you without feeling judged.
2. Don’t speak. When your guy is telling you something, even if you don’t agree with it and even if it makes you angry, don’t interrupt him. Let him get all of his feelings out before you respond and ask him to give you the same courtesy. This opens a free flow of communication without judgment or angst.
3. Call a time-out. Sometimes, in a conversation, you’ll notice it heading south. Either you’ll say something out of line or your man will. When this happens, instead of getting angry and lashing out, call a time-out. Take a breather from the conversation until you feel like you’re ready to start again. This shows your man that when he communicates with you, there is mutual respect and love there. You would rather take a time-out than hurl insults and foster bad feelings.
4. Touch him. Men, like women, are often very guarded with their feelings. Men don’t want to look weak, so if your guy comes to you venting about his bad day, a fear he has about something or something else that would be perceived as a vulnerability, touch his hand, rub his back as he talks to you so that he’ll know you’re sympathetic to what he’s going through. Soon, he’ll know that when he has an issue or is feeling vulnerable, he can come to you and trust you with his feelings.
5. Get engaged. Give your guy feedback about what he’s saying when he talks to you. Phrases like, “I know how you feel”, “I’m sorry this is happening to you,” will make him feel comfortable and let him know that he has nothing to fear by confiding in you.
–Tasha Cunningham, tasha@dontdatehimgirl.com
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