Tasha Joseph – Leading Love and Infidelity Expert

Hey ladies! Can you recall your last bad relationship? Hopefully, it was a long time ago, but if not, you’re probably trying to find a way to deal with it. It’s not easy, but there are things you can do to make letting go of a bad relationship easier.

1. Don’t Dwell on the Good. After a break up, some women tend to focus on the few things that were right in the relationship, and delude themselves about all of the many other things that were bad. When you find yourself thinking about your last relationship, recall all of the things you didn’t like about it and how much better off you are today without that guy in your life.

2. Focus on His Flaws. Sometimes after a break up, women tend to idolize the guy they were with by thinking about all the good things he did in a relationship. Next time you find yourself thinking about your ex, remember all of the times he lied to you instead. It’s important also to remember that by getting back together with him, you’re not going to fix those flaws…EVER.

3. Toss the Evidence. Don’t sit around looking through all the physical remnants of your old relationship. Throw out the cards, concert tickets and gifts he gave you. And if you’re not going to throw it away, at least hide them away where you can’t readily reach them, like a public storage unit. Next time you catch yourself looking through old pictures and cards, toss everything in a box and put it out for the garbage man.

4. Don’t Hold Back. It’s okay to cry. You can’t simply hold in the sadness, anger and hurt you have inside as a result of the break up. When you feel like you’re going to cry, don’t be afraid to let it out. It’s good for you and healing for your soul.

5. Erase Him Quick. Take his number out of your cellphone, delete his e-mail address from your contacts and move on. Take the time to erase him from your life for good using these simple tips! — Tasha Cunningham, tasha@dontdatehimgirl.com

Hi ladies! Why do women often sabotage their relationships with men without even giving it a chance?

Do you sabotage your relationships with guys?

Find out!

We’ve all done it. We’re dating a guy we think might be worth our time, when out of nowhere we start a destructive pattern of sabotage and in a short time, the relationship goes belly up. Why do we do this, ladies?! Here are 3 ways to stop the sabotage!

1. Don’t be the one who calls all the time. One of the biggest mistakes women make in relationships is taking the lead too soon by calling, texting and e-mailing their guy all the time. Don’t do it. Make him call, text and e-mail you by showing him that you’ve got a life. You’re busy and you don’t have time to sit around sending him a hundred texts a day. Take it easy and make him come to you.

2. Don’t cater to his every need. Sure, in a relationship, women want to take care of their men by doing things to make their lives easier. While you might think this is a good idea, don’t do it. Being too compliant, changing your schedule around for him and waiting on him hand and foot will surely lead to the demise of your relationship. A man wants a girlfriend or wife, not a maid. It’s important to show a guy how independent you are and that your world does not center around him.

3. Don’t be naive. You’re not 18 anymore, so don’t act like it. Don’t believe everything a guy tells you and then govern your actions according to what he says. No way! Make sure he’s telling the truth and if he’s not, kick him to the curb.