Tasha Joseph – Leading Love and Infidelity Expert

Hi ladies! Why do women often sabotage their relationships with men without even giving it a chance?

Do you sabotage your relationships with guys?

Find out!

We’ve all done it. We’re dating a guy we think might be worth our time, when out of nowhere we start a destructive pattern of sabotage and in a short time, the relationship goes belly up. Why do we do this, ladies?! Here are 3 ways to stop the sabotage!

1. Don’t be the one who calls all the time. One of the biggest mistakes women make in relationships is taking the lead too soon by calling, texting and e-mailing their guy all the time. Don’t do it. Make him call, text and e-mail you by showing him that you’ve got a life. You’re busy and you don’t have time to sit around sending him a hundred texts a day. Take it easy and make him come to you.

2. Don’t cater to his every need. Sure, in a relationship, women want to take care of their men by doing things to make their lives easier. While you might think this is a good idea, don’t do it. Being too compliant, changing your schedule around for him and waiting on him hand and foot will surely lead to the demise of your relationship. A man wants a girlfriend or wife, not a maid. It’s important to show a guy how independent you are and that your world does not center around him.

3. Don’t be naive. You’re not 18 anymore, so don’t act like it. Don’t believe everything a guy tells you and then govern your actions according to what he says. No way! Make sure he’s telling the truth and if he’s not, kick him to the curb.

Hey ladies! How many times have you dated a guy and got that feeling deep in the pit of your stomach that something just wasn’t right. Like many women do, you ignored the signs and kept dating him, only to discover that everything you thought about the guy was dead-on. So, how can we women stop ignoring our intuition? That’s why Mother Nature gave it to us! Here are 3 ways to listen to your gut every time!

1.  Don’t fight the feeling. When feel that gnawing in the pit of your stomach telling you that something’s not right, immediate stop and acknowledge. Recognize that you don’t feel right about this guy and make a mental note of it.

2.  Stop seeing a guy you don’t necessarily feel good about. If you’re not totally into a guy, don’t date him. It’s just going to be a waste of his time and yours. You’re never going to find the perfect guy, but you may just find one that’s right for you if you listen to your gut.

3.  Practice trusting that gut feeling. Trusting your gut takes practice. We as women are so used to ignoring it until it’s too late, that we’ve got to practice, practice, practice and soon you’ll get the hang of it.

Hey ladies! How many times have you dated a guy and got that feeling deep in the pit of your stomach that something just wasn’t right. Like many women do, you ignored the signs and kept dating him, only to discover that everything you thought about the guy was dead-on. So, how can we women stop ignoring our intuition? That’s why Mother Nature gave it to us! Here are 3 ways to listen to your gut every time!

1. Don’t fight the feeling. When feel that gnawing in the pit of your stomach telling you that something’s not right, immediate stop and acknowledge. Recognize that you don’t feel right about this guy and make a mental note of it.

2. Stop seeing a guy you don’t necessarily feel good about. If you’re not totally into a guy, don’t date him. It’s just going to be a waste of his time and yours. You’re never going to find the perfect guy, but you may just find one that’s right for you if you listen to your gut.

3. Practice trusting that gut feeling. Trusting your gut takes practice. We as women are so used to ignoring it until it’s too late, that we’ve got to practice, practice, practice and soon you’ll get the hang of it.

What Every Girl Needs to Know About Guys, Their Exes and Jealousy

Q. Dear Tasha

I’m new to your site DontDateHimGirl.com and I’m sure this topic has been discussed a million times before but please help me out, I am suffering from the age old killer of relationships – jealousy.

And it sucks, it eats away at me inside though I know my agitated feelings have no logic behind them. I have been dating my boyfriend for about three and a half months and he tells me he loves me daily, he is just about always there for me and he is like the guy of my dreams, the one I’m pretty sure could be Mr. Right, after years of dating creep upon creep. But the thing that drives me nuts and is killing our relationship is the horrific jealousy I always feel whenever he mentions one of his exes or tells me a story about them or shows me a photograph. I hate it.

I freak out and don’t want to talk to him. My policy has always been ignorance is bliss. I just don’t want to know how his ex-girlfriends look or to see in a picture a necklace he gave her when they were going out. His policy is that I should know about his past so that I can get to know who he is today.

My policy is aaarrgh – I’m constantly comparing myself – I don’t look like any of these other chicks, they all have bigger bra sizes, blond beach chick looks. Though they were all much older than him and did have kids which should be of some comfort.

I know I clearly suffer from low self-esteem problems and I’m from another country and without family etc… while he is Southern California born and raised and has a ton of friends and a great and loving family. No matter how hard I explain he cannot understand the insecurities that eat away at my insides like a cancer, my exaggerated thoughts and ensuing depression.

I know he is faithful to me and these women are no threat so why do I constantly compare myself to these exes and stupidly feel they were somehow better than me and how do I make him understand to quit bringing stuff up I don’t want to hear and stop feeling angry for no reason before I completely destroy what could be a great relationship.

It sounds simple enough and I will think I have it under control and rationalize everything but takes little more than a picture or a comment to set me off again. Help – I know this is sick and stupid behavior – Thanks.

Well, first you should congratulate yourself! You know what’s eating away at you, now you just need to learn how to move past it. A lot of women haven’t gotten to the point of being able to recognize their own insecurities.

You have and for that, you should be happy. Now, on to the business at hand � how does a girl with low self-esteem move past jealousy and insecurity and help her otherwise great relationship grow?

Getting help, such as therapy for your issues with low self-esteem is a great first step. A therapist can help you work through the issues that are at the root of your insecurity. Remember, that in one way or another, both men and women are insecure creatures. Believe it or not, your boyfriend has insecurities, too!

Next, talk to your boyfriend about it – not to try to make him understand your insecurities because to him what you’re feeling isn’t rational. Instead, ask him to stop bringing up his exes. Make it a policy in the relationship, just like the other policies you adhere to, particularly if you don’t bring up your exes to him.

Then, stop comparing yourself to these women. Of all the pictures he’s shown you or stories he’s told you, YOU are the one that he is with. YOU are the one he loves. If these other women were so great, he would still be with them. Guys are really simple that way.

They aren’t going to stick around and be in relationship with a woman they aren’t into for any reason. It’s important that you understand this. Of all the women he’s been with, your boyfriend has chosen you. Do you really think that just because you don’t look like the chicks he dated previously, he loves you any less? Absolutely not!

Sure, he may show you a picture once in a while or tell you a story, but once you tell him how this makes you feel, he’ll stop. No picture or story is more important to him than your feelings.

Are you really going to let a picture of some old ex-girlfriend really set you off and ruin a great relationship? You’re much smarter than that.

Who cares if they have bigger breasts or a different hair color? Work on your self-esteem issues with a therapist, stop comparing yourself to the women in his past who are no longer relevant to him in any way and enjoy your relationship with your boyfriend. A great guy is hard to find and it sounds like you have one, so don’t blow it because of a picture or story of an old girlfriend from his past! –  Tasha Joseph