Tasha Joseph – Leading Love and Infidelity Expert

1. The corner office – your guy may not be working late, but he may be sneaking off to his paramour’s office down the hall for a quickie during the day. Pop by for a visit to his office unannounced if you’re suspicious.

2. The gym – sure, he goes there to work out, but what else happens during your guy’s sweat sessions? Put on some work out gear and head out with him the next time he goes to find out.

3. The bank – this comes directly from a DDHG reader who warns that some men will often use the bank as a place to troll for women while waiting in line or hitting on the women who work there. Either way, it’s not cool so the next time he says he’s going to the bank, tag along and see what happens.

How do you know your date is worth your time? You never really know, but here are 5 things that will give you a big hint!

1. He doesn’t hog the conversation – if you’re on a date with a guy who spends every minute rattling on his life and his exes without you getting a word in, this may be a sign that he’s narcissistic and selfish. A guy who listens and is interested in you and your life is the kind of guy you need.

2. He’s got chivalry on the brain – if he pulls out chairs and opens doors for you, he may be a keeper. Who says chivalry is dead?

3. He doesn’t use his cellphone during the date – this means one of two things – either he’s devoting his date time to you and doesn’t want distractions, or he’s got his phone on silent so the other women he’s dating don’t call while he’s with you. Hopefully, it’s the former.

4. He comes baring gifts – a guy who shows up on a date armed with flowers and candy is caring, considerate and obviously wants to impress you.

5. He’s on time – a guy being on time for a date is a sign that he’s taking his time with you seriously and wants to make a good impression

We’d all love to get inside our guy’s head to find out what he’s thinking. Not just what he tells us he’s pondering, but what the thoughts that are REALLY running through his mind when it comes to love, sex and dating.

1. Men are just as insecure as women. Hard to believe, given the macho bravado many men try to give off, but it’s true. Men wonder how they look, if they’ve shaved or waxed or if they’re making a good impression on you, just like women do.

2. Men want love. Really, they do. They just don’t know how to find it and keep it. In addition, most men are scared of that loving feeling. They don’t want to be totally vulnerable. It’s against their manhood, so they don’t want to put themselves totally out there without a shiny coat of tough, emotional armor to protect them in case you reject them.

3. Men want monogamy. They like the theory of being with one woman, in love for the rest of their lives, but their biology tells them another story. Since the dawn of time, men have been taught to sow their seeds with as many women as possible in the name of procreation. Although times have changed and monogamy is the norm, some guys just haven’t caught up from the caveman days!