Tasha Joseph – Leading Love and Infidelity Expert

We’ve all got habits, some good and some bad. We women tend to repeat bad dating habits more often than we’d like. We date the gorgeous bad boy, instead of swooning over the quirky nerd who we know isn’t going to break our hearts. Or we go for the guy we think we can ‘fix’ instead of devoting our attention to the guy who’s already been repaired. The key to finding a good relationship is to recognize what your bad habits are and quickly breaking them.

1. Look yourself in the eye and take a brutal, honest assessment of your dating relationships. Write down the names of your last five significant others. Write down five reasons why the relationship ended with each guy. Take a look at what you’ve written and you’ll soon see your pattern emerging.

2. When you think about dating that hottie from your office, make a commitment to yourself first. Commit to dating with your eyes wide-open. You owe it to yourself to be selective about the guys you spend your time with. If you decide on a first date with a guy, ask him tough questions that will help make the decision to have a second date. What does he do for a living? What does he value in life? What are his goals and ambitions? Is he financially stable and independent? And when he gives you the answers, don’t overlook them. Don’t make excuses for him and his answers because he looks like Brad Pitt. Instead, listen to what he’s saying and govern yourself accordingly.

3. Agree to get a second opinion. Enlist the help of your closest girlfriends, whom you trust, to provide an independent third-party opinion of your potential paramour. Be prepared to hear their brutally honest criticism and advice.

Hey ladies! Can you recall your last bad relationship? Hopefully, it was a long time ago, but if not, you’re probably trying to find a way to deal with it. It’s not easy, but there are things you can do to make letting go of a bad relationship easier.

1. Don’t Dwell on the Good. After a break up, some women tend to focus on the few things that were right in the relationship, and delude themselves about all of the many other things that were bad. When you find yourself thinking about your last relationship, recall all of the things you didn’t like about it and how much better off you are today without that guy in your life.

2. Focus on His Flaws. Sometimes after a break up, women tend to idolize the guy they were with by thinking about all the good things he did in a relationship. Next time you find yourself thinking about your ex, remember all of the times he lied to you instead. It’s important also to remember that by getting back together with him, you’re not going to fix those flaws…EVER.

3. Toss the Evidence. Don’t sit around looking through all the physical remnants of your old relationship. Throw out the cards, concert tickets and gifts he gave you. And if you’re not going to throw it away, at least hide them away where you can’t readily reach them, like a public storage unit. Next time you catch yourself looking through old pictures and cards, toss everything in a box and put it out for the garbage man.

4. Don’t Hold Back. It’s okay to cry. You can’t simply hold in the sadness, anger and hurt you have inside as a result of the break up. When you feel like you’re going to cry, don’t be afraid to let it out. It’s good for you and healing for your soul.

5. Erase Him Quick. Take his number out of your cellphone, delete his e-mail address from your contacts and move on. Take the time to erase him from your life for good using these simple tips! — Tasha Cunningham, tasha@dontdatehimgirl.com